Jealousy is a demon with many heads. There are many instances where there is confusion and the emotion, whatever it really may be, is mistaken for jealousy. The driving thought behind this comment has to do with the fact that many of my dates and lovers have told me that reading about my exploits makes them envious or even jealous.
That is not the point of this blog.
I search to be a sexually free, independent and satisfied woman without the stigma of slut yet with the positive implications of slut.
The other night I saw someone for the second time. Webster, I shall call him, has a way with words and is completely complimentary. He did admit to me that between our two encounters he had read my blog and felt a bit of green (as in envy, not sick!!!) over the whole thing. Is there a problem with a woman being sexually explicit? Maybe that isn't the issue. I don't think I would want to read...NO...I KNOW I would not want to read blogs of others such as Araponga, Sexy Friend and the Venetian. How and why should I expect others to be okay with it?
Do I not share my blog with my lovers any longer? I feel the need to be upfront about my writings as well as my personal journey. I also enjoy the tease of having my sexual exploits out there for them to read and hopefully drool over, masturbate to and seek me after reading. However, the reality that I am a sexually active and eager woman seems to be a difficult to digest on such a personal level for some of those reading. When does the pornographic nature of my writing cross the emotional boundary? This topic is regularly addressed on Polyamorously Perverse. Tom loves it when he gets used pussy and revels in women that put out...a lot. This is not true for all men though. I would like to think that some men don't like used pussy. For me personally, I prefer a man that isn't hung up on the fact that I am not a used pussy nor am I a virgin. I guess this is a topic I will have to explore more deeply as I move forward in search of pure delight and bliss in every realm of my world.
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"I would like to think that some men don't like used pussy."
- Wow, how judgemental.
Caroline,
The quote is poorly written if it is offensive. My point is that each person is different. I get caught up in what people say and, to my own fault, take it as a truth. What Tom says is sure to be true for many men, but I realized as I was writing this post, that what he writes does not represent all men. That is all. Tom wanting used pussy is a turn on. I have no harsh thoughts towards him or his blog. It is obvious that my intended tone did not come through at all.
Madame Dragonfly
The world is full of people who spurn what they have looking for what they think they need....
Tom,
Is that what I am doing in your opinion?
MD
I think I was just struck by how closely that resembled the radfem way of judging and condemning certain sexual acts (and indeed the men and the women performing them), including the ones you were trying to describe in your posts below. If someone feels that they need to be taken as a 'whole' anything less is dehumanising, then the judgements about 'the patriarchy' start, then women who actually like sex not to include the intellectual dimension, &etc. I'm sure you're familiar with their arguments. Seemed what you're saying is unnervingly close.
Plus, as you know, I'm bound to react to something that seems to be said against in TP in public, being as... well, you know the score with us. I wouldn't just let it go.
MD, I can't see inside your head, and can only draw conclusions from what you write. If I have misread you, I certainly meant no harm to you at any time.
The Little Witch is as close as friend as I could have, and she naturally takes offense when she thinks someone has wronged me. I neither control her nor egg her on in her commenting.
Oh dear MD!
i think your other commenters have taken you totally out of context and seriously over-reacted. i did not think for one moment you were being judgemental or critical of tom’s blog.
i adore his writing and would be the first to defend him if i thought he'd been unfairly slighted.
i never realised the ego could be as sensitive as the clitoris :)
hugs to you
xoxo
Mt lovely Anon,
Nor did I. There are lessons learned daily, and this is one that will last a while.
Madame Dragonfly
Well, I'd have to agree with anon. I didn't at all take your tone to be condescending or even particularly critical. In fact, I think what you bring up is something that doesn't get discussed enough in the sexblogosphere, as it's a very real issue. (And one I've dealt with, personally, as well.) That question of disclosure, and how much you want to disclose versus how much you ought to disclose and trying to find a happy medium between the two? It's more than a little complicated. And I very much appreciate your insight into it.
By the by, I've been lurking on your blog for a while now. I very much enjoy your writing style and what you have to say. It seemed like a good time to comment, so here I am. All the best.
Sasha,
I cannot thank you enough for your comment and glad you were able to see what I was really attempting to convey. Having a public eye skews things not only for the reader but for the writer as well. So, I still find myself asking if I am writing certain things because or not for someone.
It is tricky. I hope you keep lurking.
Madame Dragonfly
Used pussy! I laughed--it's so true and yet it's one of those words that makes it sound so wrong. And yet you took it and gave it a positive implication.
Tricky indeed... I've made a start by making you a little guide on how not to upset people when blogging. Hope it helps. As for the 'used pussy' debate, well I'll be addressing that soon and I know another blogger who is too.
Caroline said:
I think I was just struck by how closely that resembled the radfem way of judging and condemning certain sexual acts (and indeed the men and the women performing them), including the ones you were trying to describe in your posts below.
ROTFLMAO! Where have I heard this before? Oh, wait a sec..... ;)
IACB - you're not really wanting to stir the barely legal wars again, are you? I mean fuck, I'm up for it, don't get me wrong. But I never really got why people, even in Ren's comment thread, are talking about their own personal squicks, but when I do it and clearly show how it leads to a fucked up view of something and that you shouldn't judge such things on your own personal biases, for some reason I'm the one who needs to be pulled up. But, whatever. If you feel the need to thrash the dead cat hinny, you just let me know.
Caroline –
No, I'm not going to belabor this, but yes, I pretty much can't help but to point out the contradiction. Using the exact same rhetoric you (and a number of other bloggers writing in your defense) had said was way out of line when you were on the receiving end of it is pretty bad form. Just sayin'.
So, if I say "I think x and if I judge y by x then you can see how fucked up and wrong it is" I'm the bad guy, but it's ok just to make a flat out judgement (Ren's wrote about this way better than I could)? Yeah.... ok, IABC....
"I think x and if I judge y by x then you can see how fucked up and wrong it is" I'm the bad guy,"
Well, I'm not really following what you're saying (the x's and y's aren't quite adding up), but the only thing that would make you a "bad guy" (though "good guy" "bad guy" rhetoric is something I'd prefer to avoid here) is if you hold others to standards you wouldn't hold yourself to.
I don't. I've shown that in the post you're still going on about, and other places too. I'm pretty confident here, you know? But if you're adament that I condemned you, then I guess it's perfectly ok for other people to judge other women and men for their sexual preferences too.
"But if you're adament that I condemned you, then I guess it's perfectly ok for other people to judge other women and men for their sexual preferences too."
How does that follow?
I guess I must be weird, because the phrase "used pussy" rubbed me very much the wrong way too. Particularly since the sentence: "I prefer a man that isn't hung up on the fact that I am not a used pussy nor am I a virgin" seemed to be drawing some sort of line between a woman who is obviously sexual and open about it and a "used pussy," which seems to mean...I don't know, a woman who's crossed that mythical line to "bad girl."
Maybe that wasn't what you meant, which is fine, but the implication definitely ruffled my feathers as well.
See, the wonderful thing about sex and sexuality is that we can all have reactions to things that are different, and we don't HAVE to like or agree on everything.
Interesting post. Often it's a fine line between the stigma and the positive implications. Good luck with that.
You think in my post I was judging people, therefore I'm not allowed to respond to anything judgemental because it's hypocritical. By your reasoning.
Even though, as I've said repeatedly, I wasn't judging anyone. You go to that post and show me where I slut-shamed as MD has, show me where I failed to explain why I felt the way I did. Show me where I failed to move on from my squick, show me that I've clung on to it as a way to judge others. Prove that the motivation of the post was to judge others by their sexuality and sexual preferences. Read how the post concludes and prove that.
Once you have, maybe then I'll bother to continue this. For now, you're thrashing a dead cat.
Incidently, Trin's got a "Things that squick you out" thread going. Maybe you want to go have a look and pick out some others who don't like an aspect of porn and put them straight?
Well, this isn't really about "putting you straight". Its about the fact that I received a rather hard time from you and several other people for using almost the exact words ("radfemmish") you're using above, in a similar context. You actually had me feeling kind of bad about being so out of line until I saw you doing the same thing.
But since a complete lack of reciprocity is probably the norm in the blogosphere, I guess I shouldn't feel so bad about such trash talking – mine or anybody else's.
Yeah, like I said before -
"You go to that post and show me where I slut-shamed as MD has, show me where I failed to explain why I felt the way I did. Show me where I failed to move on from my squick, show me that I've clung on to it as a way to judge others. Prove that the motivation of the post was to judge others by their sexuality and sexual preferences. Read how the post concludes and prove that."
- I've said the same thing over and over and over and over and now I'm bored. I've even abandoned fisking you.
"Similar context" my arse, in short.
And if you think I owe you an apology, you can fuck off mate!
Take it easy.
what is the difference between 'used pussy' and merely 'experienced pussy?'
It's quite strange how blogs are perceived to be havens of free speech but if you don't fit into a particular mindset or heaven forbid, express yourself in such a way as to not upset these people with severe internal issues, then you're attacked. Caroline attacks every female that doesn't conform to her view of sex. One 'wrong' word and she'll enter a blog or start policing it, and use her blog to call people names and so on.
The 'used pussy' issue, even if reworded to appease some 'feminists', is a real thing. It's out there. There are people that don't like the idea of sleeping with people that have had a rich sexual history and no matter how many tantrums people have, this will exist in society in some way. It's natural to have questions, explore sex and seek more answers. It's a neverending journey, and it's perfectly valid to make observations and express observations but blogs, unfortunately, don't really benefit people due to the negative nature of a small percentage of insecure people that will do everything to assert themselves through negative comments and abusive posts 'outing' those they perceive to be 'backward'.
How did I find this blog? Easy. This blog was linked in Caroline's blog under the word 'dickhead' and I'd like to thank Caroline for pointing out this blog. It's a nice change to actually read about a person's sexual questions than read bloggers venting their spleen for no reason other than the fact they have nothing else to write about and should retire their blogs before they lose the plot completely.
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